Gender equality..
Having grown up in a traditional Indian family, I have come across a lot of customs and values that were followed, some with reason and some blindly. After staying away from home through high school and college, I came to realize how hard it is for an Indian women in the family to shoulder all the house chores. Traditionally, the women of the house is expected to stay in the house, cook, clean and take care of the family. It still goes on in millions of household in India and some in the US too. Some come to accept the fact that they have to spend the rest of their life like this and some are forced into it because of circumstances. For whatever reason it may be, I personally feel that this gender inequality between a man and a woman in a Indian family is not fair and it is time for a change.
Having lived in the US for 7 years now, I have got some perspective on how life can be and what sacrifices Indian women do to run the family. I am not sure if I would have seen through this if I was in India. There are a hundred things that I can list which I feel is unfair to women. I am sure those women would have felt the same but could not voice it. I think to myself everyday if I can do something to close this gap. Even a small gesture that would make the Indian men folks realize that there is nothing called a "womens chore". I strongly believe that every Indian woman has the same rights as an Indian man. Exercising this right is their choice.
There is so much I want to say about this but I dont know where to start. I need to serialize my thoughts on this and write about it. This is just a start. I have started long journey and I hope to make some difference.
Having lived in the US for 7 years now, I have got some perspective on how life can be and what sacrifices Indian women do to run the family. I am not sure if I would have seen through this if I was in India. There are a hundred things that I can list which I feel is unfair to women. I am sure those women would have felt the same but could not voice it. I think to myself everyday if I can do something to close this gap. Even a small gesture that would make the Indian men folks realize that there is nothing called a "womens chore". I strongly believe that every Indian woman has the same rights as an Indian man. Exercising this right is their choice.
There is so much I want to say about this but I dont know where to start. I need to serialize my thoughts on this and write about it. This is just a start. I have started long journey and I hope to make some difference.
2 Comments:
At Thursday, June 09, 2005,
Anonymous said…
It is true that women in India are toiling in the household activities. But there are a few which others forcing on them, a few they only can do which no one else can do, a few they wish to take happily on behalf of the family and dont feel bad or difficult to do. Again the sharing of burden with women depends on both genders' brought up, family background, education, social status etc, etc.
It is not possible to change the attitudes so easily and it will not change. Only a few can intend to share with them and that will surely give a relief to all. We can discuss endlessly on this, but without solutions.
At Friday, June 10, 2005,
Anonymous said…
Kudos to you for taking this problem head-on. I sense your anguish in the reality of suffering of women. I sense you are determined to so something about it - starting with raising awareness and a forum for sincere discussion. I sense courage.
This is indeed a silent problem, one that has been perpetuated by attitudes, both from responsible women (attitudes such as "i suffered when I was her age, so why should she have it any easier"), and men (cynical attitudes such as "Its not possible to change the attitudes...we can discuss this endlessly but without solutions", or even, apologistic attitudes such as "they take this happily on behalf of family and dont feel bad or difficult". It takes courage to speak out against the pervasive and silent slavery that passes for being a wife in some indian households - because it is so entrenched in practice and esconsed in fatalistic "no one can do anything" thinking.
Like Dan Rather said as his last word when he signed off the last broadcast as anchor: "courage".
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